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Please, just be quiet…

Today’s Daily Post prompt made me chuckle….

“If you could make anyone in the world stop talking for 24 hours who would it be? And why?”

As soon as I read it, someone came to mind.  Although it’s not necessarily the actual individual I’d like to be quiet…

 It’s the press.

I’m sure you’re all well aware that Kim Kardashian filed for divorce.  If you haven’t heard then you’ve not turned on the tv, listened to the radio, logged on to Facebook or checked out twitter for over 24 hours.

The press coverage is absolutely ridiculous.  Nonstop.   Unnecessary.

TV, Newspapers, Magazines, Facebook, Twitter…. It is everywhere.

Yes, it is ridiculous that those two individuals were married only a few months ago and are now calling it quits.

Yes, it’s incredibly absurd that so much money was foolishly thrown around on their wedding.

Yes, it’s even more ridiculous that for the days surrounding the event  you heard nothing but and saw nothing but coverage of the affair.

I even heard comparisons between this wedding and the Royal Wedding.

There is nothing to compare.

It is what it is people.  It was a spectacle from the get-go.  It’s NOT news.

Soooooooo…..

If I were able to make someone be quiet for 24 hours it would be any media person speaking of this wedding… or the failings of said marriage.  There are far more pressing issues in the world that deserve such a spot light in the media.

I don’t know what happened between the couple.  Nor do I care, as it is none of my business.  While they did air their wedding on television making it the spectacle that it became, I simply don’t understand how it  or their divorce merit worthy of news.

But hey…. that’s just me… my opinion.

What are your thoughts?  Do you think the media is going into over kill?

Best Gift Ever: Kenny Chesney & Zac Brown Band

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A good while back, I promised you a post filled with details and pictures and am just now getting to share the fun with you!!!!

I was the lucky winner of an awesome contest sponsored by Jonathan Michael’s Boutique. (The Boutique recently made an appearance on the tv series Dance Moms that is based in Pittsburgh) I can’t say enough good things about this beautiful shop, all the goodies inside, the lovely gals who work there or the wonderfully sweet owner,  Janie. It’s always a joy to enter Janie’s shop & be greeted by such beautiful smiling faces!

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I picked up my goodies!!! The tickets were absolutely AmAzInG!!!

I immediately called my best friend Jaime & told her she was coming with… we were both absolutely thrilled!

I must admit, I’ve not always listened to country music. I actually HATED it at one point in time. Somewhere along the way though I began listening & liking. (Some, not all!) Mr. Chesney was one that I did like though! Plus Zac Brown Band was playing too! I’m still not sure, two months later,  who I was more excited to see!

Right before the concert, things in my world took a crazy & unexpected turn having lost my job only 2 days before the show. I was bummed to put it mildly. Nothing makes me happier than seeing live music, BUT I thought if I sold the tickets I could use the money towards bills.

I tried to sell them but didn’t get any takers until just before Jaime & I were about to leave. We went anyway… I couldn’t have made a better decision.

We knew we had pit tickets but couldn’t believe that we literally walked right.up.front. to the stage. Seriously?!?  Front row. I don’t care what show it is … there is absolutely nothing in the world better than experiencing live music so up close & personal. Besides many a Buzz Poets shows, the only other time I was able to experience a show so close was the Goo Goo Dolls show last fall.

This show was A-ma-zing… from opening with Uncle Kracker & Billy Currington to ZBB jamming out to Kenny Chesney making his grand entrance it was awesome. Not to mention the fact that they ended the show together …. ZBB & KC killed it on stage together. Their fiddlers were unreal. It was superb from beginning to end.

We were extremely lucky to be surrounded by a fantastic group of people that made the day /night even more enjoyable. From buying us all water to saving spots to dancing & having fun, we couldn’t have asked for better concert friends.  Sometimes “people” can ruin it for you at a show but not on this night…

At the end of the night, tired but happy,walking out of the concert,  I couldn’t help but be thankful.

Thankful for the entire experience. Thankful to have won the tickets …thankful for my best friend… thankful for the fun of the show. Thankful for the piece of normalcy I received that day.

In that drive home, as I went to sleep that night & the day that followed I just kept thinking about how very grateful I was. For that day, I forgot about my worries & troubles.  For that day, I felt that all was right in my world. I was able to feel “normal” considering the recent loss of my job.

In my gratitude I sent Janie a thank you message via Facebook explaining my situation & yet again thanking her for the awesome opportunity.  Her response really got to me… she said she believed that it was not luck that I won those tickets… it was for a reason out of both of our hands. For Someone else knew what lie ahead for me… knowing just how appreciated this “prize ” would be at that specific time in my journey. For that I am grateful.

This concert really turned out to be so very much more than I ever could have expected … from beginning to end… without a doubt unforgettable.

Thanks again Janie & Jonathan Michael’s … you are the best!

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Try not to think about anything. Just try it; I dare you.

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Today’s daily prompt for the Post a Day challenge had to have been written with me in mind! I mean for real, there is now way anyone else in the world could relate as well as I did to this particular prompt…

Ok, ya.

SO.NOT.TRUE.

But, the prompt really does fit me well, especially in recent weeks.

Try to think about nothing for as long as you can. Describe what happens.

Last night, the night before and the night before that night I’ve tried to do this… it.didn’t.work.at.all.

The exact opposite happens in fact. Of course this generally occurs when I am getting ready for bed or am in bed trying to fall asleep.

I go for a run… take a nice long bath… read a book… listen to tunes… write….

All in hopes of emptying the contents of my over active brain…hoping to preempt any straggling,  nagging notions that may be lying dormant throughout the business of my day.

To no avail, the minute my head hits the pillow those straggling & nagging notions that lay dormant arise from their slumber & begin spewing about.

The moment in which I TRY not to think about anything is the exact moment in which the whatifs take hold and dominate; forsaking any chance of a peaceful sleep I may have envisioned for a mere moment’s time.

The whatifs don’t discriminate or differentiate by importance or severity … minute & minuscule matters  to  the large & grandiose … finding a job, family, friends,  relationships,  crafty projects, weather… you name it, I am sure there is a whatif associated right along side.

Perhaps the key to NOT thinking about anything is thinking about something!

Or perhaps I should locate that mysterious button I’ve heard of in passing … the one that shuts off the brain???? If I was given one when I was born 33 years ago it surely must have gone defective by age 5 because the whatifs have been my steady bedside companion for as long as I can remember.  Can I get a refund? Or perhaps an even exchange on a new one?

In the mean time, please excuse me as I begin my nightly attempt to purge my brain… attempting to think about nothing.  Or was it something?!?

Oh and if in your attempt to not think about anything you need something to read, feel free to read a bit about my friend, Whatif.  And if you still aren’t convinced… This failure of not thinking about anything and I have a long formed relationship…. months ago I wrote my manifesto, To sleep or not to sleep as added evidence for your reading pleasure.

You can thank me later… I’m a good friend, just sharing the love. 🙂

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Happily Humming…

This evening has been somewhat enjoyable if I do say so myself…

Today was a pretty low-key kinda day with dreary weather. Stuff at home, visited my mom and 2 youngest nephews for a bit, shopped a little with Jaim, had dinner with her family and then home for the night.

  I woke up way earlier than I wanted to on my day off, but by 7 AM the internal alarm had already gone off a few times!

Spent the morning doing one of my most favorite things in the world…

I purchased a TON of new music on iTunes!  9 albums to be exact… Hmmmm. Think I have a problem????

I have an ongoing list that I maintain detailing new artists I’ve heard of or older artists that I remembered to be purchased at a later date.  I put a nice dent in  the list today, but of course with every album purchased comes another one or two you add to the list!!!

The cool thing is, that a couple of today’s purchased albums were direct suggestions of fellow bloggers or I “discovered” the song in one of their posts.

Tonight, I’m sitting here enjoying each and every new dig to the fullest.

Here’s a sampling…

Christina Perri-The Ocean Way Sessions

William Fitzsimmons- Gold in the Shadow

Lights- The Listening

Paper Route- Absence

Relaxing as I sit here… happily humming my night away!

What are some new tunes you’ve enjoyed recently?  Any suggestions for me?

Learning to Trust; Rebuilding what was

 

TRUST

–noun
1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
2. confident expectation of something; hope.
3. confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received; credit: to sell merchandise on trust.
4. a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.
5. the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.
6. the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust.
7. charge, custody, or care: to leave valuables in someone’s trust.
 
—Synonyms
1. certainty, belief, faith. Trust, assurance, confidence  
 

Are you trustworthy?

I consider myself to be a very trusting individual…   Entrusting my thoughts, words and self to those around me is something I pride myself in.  My word is my word, my feelings are my feelings and I am just me, take it for what it’s worth. 

 As with many of you, I’ve experienced the pain and disappointment that comes along with someone who has broken your trust. Whether it be a friend, a significant other/spouse, family member or co-worker, it’s never easy.  It doesn’t hurt any less.  It does get any easier to deal with no matter how many times trust is broken.  Each leaves behind a scar where the once open wound  has long since healed, but leaves you guarded. Giving your trust to someone; entrusting your thoughts, words, emotions and self with someone you care about is no easy task. 

Confidences broken.  Infidelities.  Untruths. 

None of which are better than the other.  Each taking their toll in lives of those around me or in my own personal life.

How many of you have been lied to?  How many of you have told someone something in confidence only to find out the confidence was broken?  How many of you have been in a relationship/marriage and found out that your spouse is being unfaithful or untrustworthy?  Sadly a good many of us have experienced one, two or all three of these situations.  It saddens my heart to know that such situations occur as often as they do these days.

I’ve had friends that have been dishonest;  I’ve been in relationships where the fella’s been unfaithful or deceitful; I’ve had confidences broken with family members.  None have been easy to deal with or accept.  Each have taught me something and have helped me to grow, learning a bit more about myself and those I choose to surround myself with.

 Unfortunately, in dealing with these indiscretions I’ve had difficulty regaining my trust in those individuals, doubting, wondering and questioning all that transpires in our interactions thereafter; Many times leading to an a futile parting of ways or treading of water/walking on egg shells in future dealings.   More frustrating still is when that broken trust subsequently leads to my having trust issues with other individuals who were not even in the picture during the time the trust was broken. 

I’ve seen so many that are close to me be affected by the breaking of trust… many of which who have struggled or are struggling to repair the damage that is done.  Sometimes it is fixable if both parties are willing to put forth the effort; other times the cut is too deep to repair.  Friendships worn thin, marriages in despair, families in dispute.  None are pretty pictures.  All have a chance for healing if you put forth time, patience, honesty, understanding, committment, love and forgiveness.  

For those of you out there that are learning to trust again and longing to heal the wound that was left behind, I share these words with you as I continue to learn to trust again.  For me it’s an ongoing process… One that I’m pretty happy with if I do say so myself.  It all starts with trusting in yourself.

Time & Patience

Patience is a virtue...

Trust can be broken in a matter of seconds but regaining trust and learning to trust takes time.  Time to accept what transpired; time to focus on what needs to be addressed; time to learn how to trust again; time to process it all; time to take it all in. You may be ready to forgive and forget, but the other may not.  Just as you may not be ready to move on or move forward yet.  Patience IS a virtue.  You can’t regain trust over night… don’t give up on it; work at it and pray on it.  Be patient.

Honesty & Understanding

Honesty IS always the best policy even if you don’t like what you hear.  I would much rather someone be honest with me than tell me what they think I want to hear.  Let’s face it; the truth hurts.  It’s not always easy to hear that someone doesn’t feel the same way about you as you do them or that someone doesn’t agree with a decision you’ve made or a path you’ve chosen.  I’d rather be told the truth than some B.S. line of crap.  Seriously people, be honest.  It’s the right thing to do.  Be honest.  Also, have the decency to talk to the person.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Call them up, stop and see them.  Don’t skirt about the topic and speak to everyone else about it.  If you have a problem ADDRESS it!  Don’t avoid it.  Don’t disrespect someone’s feelings when they’re telling you how they feel or how your actions made them feel.  We are each entitled to our feelings, regardless of what your intentions were.  Your actions and words affect those you surround yourself with.  Try to be understanding of other’s thoughts and words.  TRY to understand where they are coming from.  You don’t have to agree, but try to understand.

Committment

If it’s worth fixing you’ve gotta be committed.  Committed to each other and starting new if you have to.  Be committed to yourself and what you want or need to be happy and whole.  Be committed to your spouse, friend or family member… be committed to rebuilding the bond that was broken. 

Love

love one another as I have loved you...

Really there is no greater gift than to love another… excepting being loved in return and moreover loving of yourself.  From friend, family, spouse or significant other; Loving of each other unconditionally is what makes us as a species so beautiful… We have the ability to appreciate and cherish the love of others and of ourselves.  You’ve got to love yourself fully in order to share of yourself wholly.

Forgiveness 

This is the tricky part.  If you think you can look past the infidelities, the dishonesty, the mistrust… can you forgive?  I am not asking you to forget because chances are you won’t be able to forget what transpired.  Earning back the trust of a loved one or trusting that their word is their word is up to you. 

If you’ve patience enough to work on all the above and ironed out all the wrinkles in time and mistrust, coming to an understanding of where you each stand, each being committed to starting anew and loving of each other unconditionally then to me it sounds as if you should be able to forgive.  At some point forgiveness follows trust.  Once you have regained trust in yourself and of another, you can then forgive  for their indiscretions.  Sometimes it takes forgiving of yourself for your wrong doings.  Sometimes it takes trusting yourself enough to know what’s right is right and what’s wrong is wrong.  Understanding that we are only human and we do make mistakes, some just more significant than others, is a great step to take.

FAITH

Have faith in yourself.  Have faith in those you love.  Have faith in the One above.  Have faith that good things do happen.  Have faith that marriages can last.  Have faith that a good friend will be there for you no matter what or how long it’s been.  Have faith that everything begins and ends with family.  Have faith and all will come together in the end.

 Have you had to learn to trust someone again?  What was the hardest part to deal with?

 For me I have tried on several occasions with each having different outcomes.  With some trust was rebuilt and regained while others proved to be untrustworthy time and time again.  I’m just living and learning as I go. 

This topic for this post was one of last week’s topics for the Post a Day Challenge.