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Never Say Never

Just when you think you have things and people figured out…

 something changes…

you have doubts…

or better yet you are surprised…

And even still better you surprise yourself…

Life has a funny way of twisting and turning and shaking ya up.  I mean everything… all rocked; strewn about.  Going from one extreme to another in a mere matter of moments.  Nothing specific to aid in the deciphering of emotions amidst daily discourse.   

Hard to Explain….

Let me try…

Have you ever been DEAD set against something? 

 I’m talking about the “Over my dead body” kinda attitude.

Let me start by saying that I consider myself to be a pretty fair/open-minded individual in most cases.  I’m usually wiling to try most new things.

With that being said, there were always a certain few things that I never would have even considered participating in or have ever fathomed I would find myself enjoying.  But again, life has a funny way of twisting and turning and shaking things up. Just a few…

  1. Country music:  About 10 or so years ago, I absolutely REFUSED to listen to country music.  Never would have even given it a shot, which is pretty closed-minded since I have proclaimed myself to be a “lover of all music.” There was just an underlying stereotype associated with the whole twangy, “woe is me” country tunes.  Somewhere along the line I found myself hearing a pop country song and kinda diggin’ it.  Before I knew it I had purchased a couple CD’s.  Now, I will say that I am still to this day not a true die-hard country fan, but I am a fan of  a few more popular artists such as the Dixie Chicks, Tim McGraw and Kenny Chesney.  With age, my tastes have broadened and am always willing to give an artist a shot.  You’d really be surprised when looking at my music collection.  There’s nothing off-limits; with maybe the exception of techno. As a certain someone recently said upon our first correspondence, there is no drug on the planet strong enough to make me think that techno music is a good listen.  But hey, who am I to judge.  To each his own, just not for me.
  2. The Tattoo:  I always told myself, “if I made it through 4 years of college without getting a tattoo, why should I get one now.”  I went with many friends when they got theirs in college.  I thought about it, but always chickened out.  I even had a sketch drawn out of what I wanted.  But never did it between the years 1996 and 2000, so it was settled in my mind that I would NOT get a tattoo.  Who in the right mind would get a tattoo, their FIRST tattoo after college.  I mean seriously, “grow up.”  Ummm ya.  That whole timeline, deadline restriction thing I seemed to have valued entirely too much in my early 20’s came in to play again.  Why the need to put a goal date on something? I dunno… But long and short of it.  I had an idea for a tattoo; I made a rough sketch completely different than the one I had made in college; passed it off to a most talented best friend of mine and she drew up something AWESOME.  SO guess what… before this girl turns 33 she’s gonna have her first tattoo.  So looking forward to it.  The meaning behind it is much more important to me than the fact that it took me more than 10 years to figure out that I still really wanted one.  Surprise, surprise, surprise… I never cease to amaze myself sometimes.  Now, you know I am kidding of course.
  3. Now this last thing I said I would never, never, ever do is going to remain nameless for the time being.  Those of you closest to me will know what I am making reference to.  At this point in time, the rest of you will just have to try to read between the lines.  Sorry, not giving it away just yet.  But for years, I have heard “do it, do it, do it” from more people than I care to admit.  My sisters, mom, best friends, acquaintances.  You name ’em they said it to me.  “Just give it a shot.”  “What have you got to lose?”  “You’ll never know until you try.” Yadda, yadda, yadda.  I wanted to hear NOTHING about it. Just not something I wanted to do at all.  No desire in the least.  If I wanted to, I could and would do it.  The difference being I needed to do it in my own time, whenever that may be… Well my own time came around about a month ago.   It’s been interesting to say the least.  Surprises, shocks and laughs galore. But taking a chance about three weeks ago has led me to be very pleasantly surprised … Happy, smiling and laughter…I’ll take it! Am I enjoying things at the moment?  ABSOFREAKINLUTELY!  ūüėČ  If you’re lucky, maybe I’ll fill ya in. But my point in “sharing” (not sharing) is to never, ever, say never.  You just never know who or what may pop up in your life…could be good; could be bad…You’ll never know unless you try.  Happy to say I have been graced with good…thinking it’s very good actually. 

Here’s my point.  Don’t build walls and hide behind them just because there’s something new along the horizon.  Take a leap of faith.  Try something new.  Something you never thought you’d do in a million years.  Something that you were dead set against ever even considering the thought of doing.  Take a chance.  Consider it a challenge.  The ending result WILL surprise you if you make an honest and genuine attempt…Who knows?  Maybe you’ll even knock it outta the park or get knocked off your feet slipping on a patch of ice.  Go with it… Take in the smiles, the laughs, the new experiences.  I know I’m quite surprised so far with the outcome of my most recent leap of faith.  Surprised and happy.  Happy with my decision to give it a shot.  Happy with the ride I’ve taken so far.  Happy at the possibility of the road ahead full with twists and turns and the glimmering chance of hope… Happy with the leap I’ve taken…

That leap of faith is a powerful thing.  Having faith in yourself, others and your choices is so very important.  I am thankful to have a daily reminder of such magnitude.  Everytime I’m unsure, discouraged or wavering,  I look at the many pieces on my walls.  With every initial of a piece of my art work… I see it.  MFT… The “F” standing for Faith, my middle name.  It’s there as a daily reminder…to have faith in myself and the decisions I make; have faith in those I surround myself with; have faith that my choices are just that.  I have the choice to hide behind walls or embrace new ventures. No longer hiding behin a wall… I’m liking this new venture I am currently on. Thinking I’ll stick with it.  See where it takes me. No timelines or handbooks determining my path or rules along the way.  Learning more about myself and others.  Very happy with my choice and the leap… Where will it lead me?  Only time will tell…

I’ve really surprised myself in the last few weeks and have also been surprised by others… in the best ways imaginable.  It’s all good as far as I’m concerned. 

Never, ever, say never.

 You just may surprise yourself… or maybe someone else will surprise you just in time.

I’m just sayin’……..

Decisions….Revisions…

This post has been a work in progress for several months now…Adding, deleting and modifying its content has been interesting and eye opening.¬† Curious to hear what you think…

I am who I am and proud of it.¬† As I have stated before, something that is plainly obvious; I am a work in progress.¬† I have not changed who I am, because again, I will not allow a list to dictate my success in life or my happiness.¬† I just hope to change the way I go about my life.¬† Sharing of myself and giving to others, respecting and honoring myself and those closest to me do remain priorities as always.¬† The difference being a more efficient utilization of my time and efforts.¬† Spending time and effort on the people and things that matter… the RIGHT PEOPLE, as I was¬†reminded today…is what it’s all about.

Finding and Defining happiness…

  1. Do what makes me happy.
  2. Live each day in a way that will make me proud; therefore, making me happy.
  3. Make decisions that I can live with in the day-to-day.
  4. Take nothing for granted.  Period.
  5. Have faith in myself and others
  6. Trust myself and my judgement…
  7. Forget regrets.
  8. Live and be me….

So that’s my MASTER list… No time line; no qualifiers or quantifiers determining my overall success in happiness in life.

I decided to break it down into a more attainable and achievable set of goals. … See below for an explanation and the New and REvised list…

RE-VISIONS

In an earlier post I detailed THE LIST; A list of goals I had established for myself when I was much younger that I aspired to achieve¬†by the age of 28.¬† I resolved that while the list was not completed, I would not let a set of guidelines with a deadline attached define my happiness or overall success.¬† After reading a fellow blogger’s post (Thanks Nicole!) about her list and recent conversations with long-time counterparts, I have decided to reconstruct mine and start completely over…no deadlines…no pressure…. Just a simple list of things I hope to achieve at any given time.¬† The items on this new and revised version of THE LIST aren’t numbered,¬†and¬†aren’t ¬†in any specific order of importance or priority.¬† They vary in their significance from tiny little tidbits that make me or someone else happy to the more lofty ideas that may have made an appearance on my original list…. This list is a compilation of many I’ve had in the last 32 years.¬† As items are crossed off, new additions to the list will be made.¬†The list is LENGTHY and will continue to grow even as items are crossed off.¬† ***NOTE:¬† There will be a PAGE dedicated to the “LIST.”¬† It can be found at the top of¬†Maggie Mae’s Days¬†Home Page.¬† Stop back and check on my progress***

HERE GOES….

Try at least one new recipe a month

Keep a house plant ALIVE for a whole year

Fly in an airplane

Visit Washington state

See Phish in concert

Get my first and only tattoo

Children’s book published

Learn photography

See sunrise and sunset at the beach

See 3 shows in New York City

Go on an ‚Äúalphabet‚ÄĚ walk and take pictures of each letter found until you’ve found all 26

Learn how to tie a neck tie

See Coldplay in concert

Take a random, unplanned road trip

Take a walk in the rain

Visit the Grand Canyon

Be silly more often

Take a bus to a small town just to spend a few hours exploring

Put all my pictures in photo albums

Laugh daily

Share my thoughts and words more freely

Go to the drive-ins

Go target shooting

Send a card to someone for no reason

Print all the digital pictures I’ve uploaded

Watch a scary movie

Visit all the museums in the Pittsburgh area

Buy ice cream from an ice cream truck

Get a massage

Pay the toll booth for someone behind me

Host get-togethers more frequently

Surprise someone for no reason at all

Wake up in the morning… take a picnic lunch… get in the car and see where the day takes me

Learn something new once a month for a year

Refinish grandma’s sewing desk

Be a better daughter, sister, aunt, friend, boss

Redecorate parts of my place

Make a difference in at least one person’s life

Get healthy and stay healthy

Travel to Italy and Germany

Find love; be loved.

Blog more often (at least once a week)

Try Thai Food

Go back to visit Edinboro

Make cards to donate to nursing homes

Refinish bedroom set

Tell those who matter ‚ÄúI love you‚ÄĚ more often

Show those who matter I love them more often

Do at least 3 craft shows in a year

Write a song

Learn to play piano

Slow dance under the stars

Take a pottery class

Design a greeting card for Hallmark

Get published in a paper crafting magazine

Talk less, listen more

Go to Vegas

Make a stranger smile

Take a cooking class

Go to at least 10 concerts in a year (It’s been done in the past… but quite some time ago now)

Crank up the music and dance a fool at home

Make a ‚Äú20 Things I Like About You List‚ÄĚ for a friend or family member and give it to them

Jump in rain puddles

Make a list of 100 random things about myself and share on my blog

¬†That’s it… I’m pretty happy with it and am going to make a conscious effort to work at it when¬† I can… I have as long as I need/want…

Take this challenge… What are your ultimate goals?

…::Words of Another #2::…

As I have mentioned in previous posts, the words of another speak for me when I cannot find words myself.  Words of another inspire, motivate, console and calm.  No matter the mood, the words of another replace the bits and pieces that are floating endlessly in my mind and help complete the puzzle that can sometimes consume you.  Whether the words are put to music or stand alone, they serve a purpose in my life. 

In My Life, The Beatles

This song speaks to me on many levels. It serves as a reminder of all the loved ones in my life; some that guide, guard and protect from above; others that are present in my everyday existence;  and other still that played an important role in my life at one time or another and remain here on this Earth, but ar Continue reading

The Bits ‘N Pieces

The¬† tiniest bits ‘n pieces of my life are what make me breathe.¬† The moments and mere seconds that fly by in the day-to-day¬†existence¬†of all living beings that may go unnoticed.¬†¬†The plucking of a guitar string with a pick; the hummingbird hovering close by my head as¬†I read on my patio; the slight influx of air as any living creature takes¬†each breath.¬†

Taking a step back to observe all that is around me and not focusing on the mundane or unnecessary.  Thinking and dwelling only on the things that truly matter.  Life, love, music, family and friends.

Just a few of the bits ‘n pieces….