There is nothing better than discovering you have common ground with someone… especially cool feeling when newly discovered common ground is established between long time friends or family or even people you have just met.
In my chosen field of employment one of the things we teach the kiddos is the “Golden Rule“… treat others the way you want to be treated. Simple, true words to believe in and live by yet a seemingly a fading trend in today’s society. At times I am astonished at the sight and sound of actions and words exchanged between individuals. Leading by example is huge in my profession and as difficult as it can be at times, you just gotta suck it up and deal. In general, you’re going to come across people in life that you don’t see eye to eye with… the most difficult thing to do some times is to concede your thoughts and beliefs for the sake of all individuals involved. It’s just not always about you. Other people have feelings to…gotta take that into account in all that you and say.
But when you find people that get you and your point; what you think and believe; how you feel and what you think and better yet, they get what MAKES you feel and think that way, the whole treating others as you want to be treated can be much easier.
believe it or not…they are out there…at times though hard to come by. I am extremely fortunate to be surrounded with several such people in my life. Friends, family and a certain fella I’ve recently come to know…Yep, they just get me. From finishing sentences, to reading facial expressions, to knowing that a phone call is appreciated or an “I miss you” is needed and appreciated… They’ve got it down and I’d like to think they would say the same about me. It’s hard to explain. Seriously, ridiculously hard to explain. Am I going to question it? Nope. Am I going to go with it? Yep.
The break down…
I’ve got three of those things you’d call a best friend and I thank my freakin’ lucky stars for each of them. These three ladies are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO extremely different, yet each know ALL the ins and outs of me. They can look at me in a split second and know that I need to talk, cry, or laugh. They could tell by the tone of my voice or the look in my eyes that somethin’ just ain’t right or that I’m so flippin’ excited that I can barely contain myself without ever having to mutter a word. one in highschool, the other in college and the other upon moving home from Maryland. With each there have been periods without contact but each has been a constant in this crazy roller coaster of a ride I’ve experienced for the last 32 years. We have a mutual respect for each other. We see eye to eye on many a things, but even if we don’t, we respect each other. Friends like these don’t judge. They take your for what you are…faults and all. They understand that life and all it’s experiences can change you in ways that just cannot be explained. We listen to each other. We comfort each other. We get tough with each other when the need arises. The part that I am amazingly blessed by experiencing is knowing that no matter what… I am “surrounded” by three of the most amazing women a girl could ask for. Amazingly beautiful, strong, dependable, and determined women. Three women who have my uttermost respect for staying true to themselves as well as me throughout some of the absolute TOUGHEST experiences I have been through, knowing that I would do the same in a heart beat. Always there. Day or night, as cliché as that sounds…it is the truth. In one way or another common ground was established long ago with each of these ladies. Common ground being, respect, understanding, dependability, loyalty, and love. Seriously, one would think these qualities would be common sense when labeling people as “friends,” but common ground can be difficult to find…Surround yourself with good people; great friends…True friends.
As I’ve gotten older….
Some friendships come and go. People change. Sometimes friendships end because of changes. Life is life. You can’t hold regret for things that happened in the past. I am thankful for the many I have considered as friends in the past but have lost touch with. Time, circumstances and situations change…people change. There are some friendships that just can’t hang in there…not for lack of trying, but just out of the sheer fact that people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not. A friendship is similar to a relationship…it takes work. Not the kind that exhausts you and leaves you high and dry, burned in the end. Working at a friendship should be easy; especially if common ground has been established. But even still life has a way of throwing curve balls…not everything ends happily. It is what it is…I am ok with that. It doesn’t diminish the importance of any of those friendships. Each of you have played a significant role in helping me get to this point in my life…so THANKS.
Part 2 soon to follow… FAMILY